Look at What's There to See
What's actually happening in your reality?
What are the facts about your behaviour currently in your life? What is occurring in your vicinity? What has changed around you recently, especially directly relating to you? How has your behaviour changed in the recent past?
Getting the facts straight about one's life is crucial if one cares about understanding themselves, their motivations and reality as a whole. "Facts" meaning actual experience - NOT right interpretation of it. Correct interpretation is impossible without first seeing the data that's there. Interpretation comes later.
To be able to see what is there you first have to look at what is there. The perceptive being attentively looks - and thus then sees. The unperceptive being doesn't look or looks unattentively - which I wouldn't then call looking.
This is key to understanding one's behaviour. And the key to moving forward. Because deep change without clarity in the given area is impossible.
This also applies to dream analysis. Correctly understanding the meaning of a dream requires first seeing what actually happened there. That's the first step and it's NOT immediately obvious. The mind is very quickly infected with an initial interpretation which then heavily distorts vision of the dream. This is a big trap in dream analysis. Don't settle for the initial interpretation - get the facts straight, even if you think you already did! You might be surprised with how you might have misseen the dream's vision (or not spotted/considered important details) even though you replayed it in the mind's eye a bunch of times.
